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I have tried to set up the on board logging but it never shows that it's live. The red dot is still there no matter what I do. Am I just a newb and missing something?

You need to ensure the parameters are being met in order for it to turn on and ensure the disable parameters aren't being immediately met. Ensure it's enabled. Flash the ECU.

Ok so as long as I have the parameters set right it will go live as I am driving when they are met even though it doesn't show live in the parameters screen initially?

The parameters do need to be met in order for it to record and signal that it's doing so.